10 Things You Need To Give Up To Become A High-Achieving Person.

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A secret about success is that it is just as much about what you give up as what you gain. High achieving people understand that the foundation of life is the white space and that because our energy is limited each day, what we spend it on will define us in the future.

01. The fear of uncertainty.
Nothing in life is certain. There are no guarantees, ever. Building your own business or embarking on a side project or trying a whole new career doesn't mean you're diverting from the path of certainty and into a life of the reckless unknown. It means you recognize that certainty is largely an illusion, and clinging to it can ultimately hold you back.

02. Ignoring your feelings.
Your anger? It's telling you where you feel powerless. Your anxiety? It's telling you that something in your life is off balance. Your fear? It's telling you what you care about. Your apathy? It's telling you where you're overextended and burnt out. Your feelings aren't random, they are messengers. And if you want to get anywhere, you need to be able to let them speak to you, and tell you what you really need.

03. Avoiding discomfort.
All of the "bad habits" that are holding you back from your potential you adapted to as coping mechanisms, and what you were trying to do is avoid discomfort. Most people build their lives around just doing what makes them feel most at ease without realizing that trying to avoid inevitable feelings is the fast track to complacency and actually facilitates deep, prolonged anxiety.

04. Your most unhealthy habits.
Real success is a holistic thing, and it isn't going to happen when you feel like crap all the time. It's unrealistic to assume you'll never have a glass of wine again, so rather than trying to eliminate everything that isn't perfectly healthy for you, identify your worst habits and work on those while allowing yourself other vices here and there. It's not about achieving perfection, it's just about facilitating your health so that you can get out of your own way.

05. Your excuses and your Distractions.
Everything that isn't helping you move forward or build a life you're proud of is simply a distraction. Whether this means streamlining your wardrobe, decluttering your home, parsing down on your project load, or even downsizing your social obligations, eliminating distractions is absolutely essential.

It's okay to want to explain why you aren't where you want to be. But you also have to realize that justifying it won't get you there any faster. In life, you either do or you don't. You either waste time placating yourself into stagnancy, or you get honest about where you are and make change. The validity of your excuses only serves to make you temporarily feel better about why you aren't doing what you know you want and need to be.

06. The need to be liked.
Nobody is universally liked, largely for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with them. You are going to be liked by some, loved by others, criticized by a handful, and disliked by a few basically regardless of what you choose to do with your life. Therefore, it makes the most sense to do what you want regardless of how other people will respond.

07. Trying to do everything yourself.
You are not meant to take on every role, job and responsibility in your life. High achieving people don't inundate themselves with work, they hire the right people, streamline and surround themselves with experts who can handle what they are not best equipped to. You are not stronger for refusing to rely on anyone else, you're wasting your energy and weakening your potential.

08. Quick fixes and shortcuts.
Building something lasting and meaningful won't happen overnight, and you should stop expecting it to. Real change happens gradually, and one habit at a time. Rather than trying to exert enough willpower to change something 100%, focus on how you can do 1% better each day, and over time, the effort will compound.

09. Envying those who have what you want.
The way that you speak about those who have achieved what you aspire to will either enable or hinder you to getting it yourself. If we start to pick out the flaws in those we envy because deep down, we really wish we had what they did, ultimately we begin to associate having that kind of success with being disliked or unworthy. It sets us up for self-sabotage. The more you judge others, the more you put yourself in a box.

10. Waiting for your circumstances to change before you do.
It can be tempting to be allured into destination addiction, or the idea that once we have achieved one more thing, or have a new relationship, or are handed some degree of success, life will change and we will feel better. The reality is that life unfolds from the inside out, and that we don't change when our circumstances do, our circumstances change when we do.

Article by Anastasios Schinas, Life and Executive Coach and Author.



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